I hope you’re having a lovely day. I am sharing this post from the beaches of Tulum, Mexico where I am having both a glorious time and recently some challenges in my relationship that occurred last night and into today.

Yet I feel like we are overcoming them in a nice way and learning that especially in the heat of the moment, we don’t need our points to be validated. We don’t need to be right. We don’t need our theories to be correct. We simply need to step back and see how each other is feeling and work through each other’s feelings to reconnect, and then we can talk about what happened and why it happened. By really being sensitive to the feelings is a key part of being able to reconcile because ultimately, all we want to do is be right so that we can feel validated or closer or more aligned and then feel better. So just skip the Ego step of feeling right or validated, and be more aware and conscious how the other is feeling and how you’re feeling and come from that place: feelings.

We just want to feel better at the end of the day. That’s all we want so if we can focus on the feelings and focus on our own feelings and sharing what we’re feeling and have them report him what they’re feeling and not so much on the theories and the mental aspects of the relationship then we can grow closer together and build a bridge and from there, we can look together at things that may have caused the disruption in the flow of are good feelings and that’s where we’re at today, so it’s been good so far.

There’s been a lot of bridge building and trust growth, and now sometimes just taking time apart after coming back together consuming little confusing, but that can be the best course of action to ensure that we also give ourselves time to adjust to the upgrading and the of leveling that we’re doing as individuals and in our relationship.